As some of you may know, I have this lady who lives inside me. I call her “Our lady of perpetual responsibility” (kudos to Garrison Keller), oloper for short.
Recently I felt overwhelmed by all of the things I perceived as my responsibilities. I knew I had to get OLOPR under control. I asked AI to help me make the image above.
Then I made a list of my responsibilities, and things that I did that I perceived as my responsibilities. I prioritized them, and left off the IDMs.
“What is an IDM” ? you may ask. My mom invented the term. When something was not important to remember, or even know in the first place, she would say, “That goes on my IDM list.” It was a list of things that she did not write down. Learn more about my mom here, if you are interested: https://gracegloria.com/my-mom/
After I had completed the IDM part of my list of responsibilities, I made an outline of things that do matter, in order of priority.
Here is the result:
What are my responsibilities?
Worship
Time in the word
Prayer
Care of Tim
Emotional Needs
Spiritual Support
Physical Needs
Food/Meds/Vitamins
Appointments
Care of Myself
Eat properly
Get enough rest
Exercise—trike riding
Recognize age-related incapabilities
Guard myself from injuries, falls, lifting or over exertion
Household duties
Care of the Dogs
Food Preparation
Shopping
Housewor
Laundry
Cleaning
Organizing
Yard and Greenhouse
Group Meetings
Shabbat
Study the lesson
Prepare the house
Prepare Food
Manage rentals
Now, I can look at the list posted on the refrigerator, and know what is an IDM, and what things I am responsible to do.
Shalom. Shalom.